5 People You Spend the Most Time With
You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with
– Jim Rohn
Today my sister-in-law Natalie posted question 11 of our latest series of Connect52 questions. Question 11: if you could choose anyone, who would you pick as your mentor?
I have had this article in mind for months and was missing the proper motivation to share my thoughts on a well documented topic. The interesting thing and power of a question is that it thirsts for responses and presents more questions. If it is true that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with do we associate with people who bring our average up or are you the person who helps drive averages up? It really makes you wonder if you want to be the smartest person in the room or if you want to leave room for your average to be increased? It makes me evaluate who I am spending my incredibly valuable time with in this life.
“You need people — whether it’s co-founders, mentors, family or friends — who will challenge you and make you better, thereby raising your average or helping you maintain a high one. Many entrepreneurs strive to be the smartest person in the room on every issue. But if you’re always the smartest person, you’re hurting yourself. You want to surround yourself with people who can run circles around you in as many areas as possible, people who are exponentially better in a variety of ways.” http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/233444
Due to great mentors in my life I would struggle to give one person stewardship of mentor of my life. As any good mentor knows they are human like the rest of us. What mentors or 5 people would I choose to be challenged by, no doubt raising my average to a whole new level, providing me with tools and direction to profoundly impact the world. Today I was inspired by Dr. Erica Miller and her book, “Don’t Tell Me I Can’t Do It”.
“tikkun olam, a phrase my people use to describe our shared responsibility for repairing the world. We do this by giving back through community service, doing our part to make our world a better place to live. It’s a way of recognizing that life is a gift and a stewardship: We’re accountable for what we choose to do with the time and resources destiny places in front of us. We can choose to squander them, or we can redeem them for the good of ourselves and others. That’s tikkun loam.”
Scott Dinsmore: Is on a mission to change the world by helping people find what excites them and build a career around the work only they are capable of doing. Scott personally makes a difference in the world and inspires others to live their legend. http://liveyourlegend.net.
“I believe there is no more powerful predictor of your success or failure than the people you choose to surround yourself with. It’s impossible to fully do work you love (and Live Your Legend) without the right people in your corner.” http://liveyourlegend.net/the-2-laws-to-befriending-absolutely-anyone-including-warren-buffett/
Jonathan Fields: Is on a quest to create and curate ideas, stories and tools that’ll help you come alive. Jonathan’s current focus, Good Life Project, is a global movement that inspires, educates, connects and supports mission-driven individuals in the quest to live better, more engaged, connected and aligned lives. #WakeUpPeople.
All the people that Jonathan features on the Good Life Project are worthy mentors, as people who are driven to inspire individuals in the quest to live better, more engaged, connected and aligned lives.
“Those that rise quickly to the upper stratospheres of their field are incredibly deliberate about the environments they place themselves in.
You may have heard before that it’s much easier to not eat cookies if you remove them from your cupboard (and replace them with healthier choices).
In the same way, it’s much easier to operate a higher level of genius, creativity and effectiveness when your environment makes it almost automatic.
If you wake up with a community of doers, leaders, and world-changers, it will be incredibly difficult for you to not embrace your own greatness.
Deliberately surround yourself with people doing those things. Seek them out, befriend them. And above all, find ways that you can add value to what they are doing.” http://www.jonathanfields.com/the-fastest-way-to-level-up-your-business/
Brene is inspiring individuals to dare greatly, to live vulnerably, living a wholehearted life. Brene is the inspiration or mentor if you will behind 2 other articles that I have written. The Power of Vulnerably Sharing and The Secret Shame of Life.
Warren Berger: is “UNLEASHING THE POWER OF BEAUTIFUL QUESTIONS”. He is the creator of the website amorebeautifulquestion.com and author of the 2014 book A MORE BEAUTIFUL QUESTION. Warren currently writes for Fast Company, Harvard Business Review, and was a longtime contributor at Wired magazine and The New York Times.
“A beautiful question is an ambitious yet actionable question that can begin to shift the way we perceive or think about something—and that might serve as a catalyst to bring about change.”
In April 2014, while on a Southwest Flight from Chicago to Salt Lake City, I picked up the inflight magazine Spirit. I was expecting to mindlessly pass some time away from destination A to destination B. Ironically, my “spirit” was touched by Warren Berger’s article “Chasing Beautiful Questions”. The article took me on an inspirational journey of the life of Van Phillips. https://connect52.com/beautiful-questions/
Gary Vaynerchuck: if you’re up to something big and you want the world to know about it you want Gary Vaynerchuck in your corner hustling your business. Gary doesn’t fancy himself an “entrepreneur” as much as a businessman. Businessweek selected him as one of the top twenty people every entrepreneur should follow.
“My core thesis has always revolved around one question: Are you marketing like the year you actually live in? That’s it. It’s not about where things are going to be in 5 years, and it’s definitely not about how we’ve always done it. Do what works. Right now.”
If it is true that we are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with, than it would also be true that we are a culmination of influences, conversations and experiences from all the people we have spent time with. So, it is with tremendous gratitude that I thank all the mentors, family, and friends who have influenced my life in such a way that I was inspired to want to create Connect52 a revolution in human connection. Connect52 transforms individuals, families, marriages and relationships through the simple and fun process of asking one thought provoking question a week and connecting through the answers. Imagine a private place online where you and your family members or close circle of friends can provide insights to each other about important childhood memories, significant firsts, and professional challenges that you’ve overcome. Connect52 is that place. With just one question a week for 52 weeks, you can change your life and the lives of those you love most.
Great connections can make or break a career, an idea or a company. They can propel innovators from a dorm room to a packed conference room, accelerate professional advancement, and uncover untold opportunities. Conversely, the absence of connections can relegate even the most talented individuals to obscurity. In today’s increasingly “connected” world, becoming a connector is a required skill.
Malcolm Gladwell describes connectors as “a handful of people with a truly extraordinary knack [… for] making friends and acquaintances.”
Every relationship begins with discovery—learning about another’s experience, what you have in common, what sets you apart. It is critical, therefore, that you take the posture of “journalist” when building a new connection. At the heart of this, is asking great questions. http://www.forbes.com/sites/groupthink/2014/02/04/the-three-habits-that-can-make-you-a-master-connector/
I am often asked, “what is Connect52?” Just the other day I compared Connect52 to the experience of a first date. On a first date you are in the discovery phase of a potential relationship. You fire questions at your date in an attempt to discover similarities, vulnerably sharing stories, looking for opportunities to build a connection.